Why Do We Suffer?

It is always been our question when it terms to the down fall of our life. Aside from that we always questioned our known God by asking ourselves “Did God bring our suferring?” Or “Is suffering done from free choice and is suffering external to humanity?”
Let us understand and consider one factor that may caused our suffering which is “social problems”.

Our life depends on how we end up in the society because we are taught how to socialize in our school, that they want us to look good in the society that we lived in. The school also provides knowledge tool in general and school itself is responsible for the secondary socialization by making a manifest functions. 

The school also gave us the chance to create and select our own group of friends that we hooked up everyday. So it is now the start of “the sense of belonging” either it is a good influential friends or a bad influential set of friends. 

Basically, choosing our set of friends depends on the best interest of ourselves that we are very comfortable and welcome.

Our peers or friends socialized to be able to have a sense of belonging. Take this example like being in a gang or a certain group,   in which a person may tend to have a characteristics of having self-competence, love and connectivity.

From the very beginning in which we re-socialized (the pattern to adapt new ones like in prison and religious conversion) to be able to have a stable function in the society. Re-socialization may also involved stress, almost and always, in relation to the the type of work we are in. But stress in general can be eased through theraphy, which is also considered as one factor of re-socialization because it helps us to adapt new sense for who we are.

Lastly, there are expectations in the society that we can do as an appropriate individual. The idea of socialization is continous to the very end. We are basically judged by the people of who our friends are. When they knew that one or two of your friends are known addicts, of course the group that you are in to are labelled “addict friends“.

Yes, it’s true that addiction is more on cultural influenced but another factor that will be considered also is psychological. If a certain person has high addiction it means that he has high psychological reaction. It may be associated with the strange relationship with the family. 

Yes, We cannot blame the others to judged because there is a certain thing called correlation, like there is a correlation in substance abuse and crime. In general aspect, the correlation which is a variable that happens but it is hard to react what causes the other. More likely, we cannot judged a certain person why he or she is addicted because there are many factors involved on it.

But to be honest, dealing with an addict is not a big problem in the society. They are more emotional, so to speak. They found love in a certain group that they belong and that kind of emotion was never shown by their loved ones. This type of people are very honest and very much emotional. The most loyal one that they are not tired of loving even if the that person never loved them back. 

I knew because I was part of it and i’ve been there chasing the bee that flits from flower to flower and hoping I will catch it, so that I will achieve the infinite blithe.