According to Aristotle, Philia is a kind of love that we see in the other person. We love them because they portray all the good qualities in life (which also includes virtues). We must have all the reasons so that we are guided with our rationalities. In other words, we should have all the qualities and rationalities.  That is why philia is different from romantic love. Romantic love is mostly based on our feelings guidance. He also added, that we can fall in love to somebody with our feelings, but at the end, it can eventually turn into a bad feelings. The idea is that, pleasures are not the only basis of love; however, we can love someone erotically at the same time, as our friend. But, attitudes and desires can cause to cloud ourselves. Normally, we love that person because they are virtuous and a good person at the same time. We can also love that person and have sex with them, but then, after we will know them personally– we tend to hate their personality.

On top of that, Aristotle explains that falling in love with reasons is distinguishing the false from the truth. He added that happiness is greater than having pleasure, sex and passion. If we are thinking about love, we must have the ability to think about it with a broad sense, and that is why philia or the friendship love is good. By having a good set of friends, it is one way of how we organized with ourselves and how we can have reasons that are well enough. Falling in love involves spending time talking with the other person and a way of making consistent good decisions for ourselves. The idea of finding a good relationship with the other person will enable us to think critically. Critical thinking in the sense of values and qualities of the person, and the roles that we want to play in our relationships.

Aristotle also said that the key to a good relationship is a good friendship, and good friendship is more important than romantic relationship. By having a good friendship is a way of allowing ourselves to know all the reasons before we let ourselves completely being swept away. If we did that, we will have the chance to allow the spark for the ideal romantic relationship.

On the other hand, love is wishing or seeking the good for the other/beloved for his/her own sake, Aristotle explained. In an ideal relationship, one is concern on what we think for ourselves, and the other one thinks on what they think for the others. In order to do that is to love the other person before ourselves. Another way also is by having self love, in which it can give us the pleasure in ourselves. If we will have all the positive virtues; then, we will be able to achieve true love. If we will find all the best interesting qualities of life; we are not only able to satisfy the desires, but also a way of enriching our minds. We love the person because they are good, and we will need somebody that will have the same basis of our own understanding.

Physical Attraction must not be the only reason to fall in love with. However, we must find a way to get to know more about them, he said.

Sex is the main reason why most people’s rationality is clouded.

If only we are aware of what we may have, then it will lead us to find the better reasons. When we find that reasons, then we will have that feeling order, and the second thinking level order. Reasons are the way that allows us to think our past. Based on what we can observe today, the generation’s trend are mostly based on sex acts in which sexual nature in general couldn’t be deny. They are more into pleasure and fun, exploring the body parts, women became a property, and sex becomes a symbol. But, if only we will not allow ourselves from following those criterias, men and women will meet in equality. The advertising culture is the main reason for changing the standards and setting those standards that made our minds being clouded. Having said that, we can avoid those things by having a proper critical thinking. We people must be able to think for ourselves to be able to achieve the desired goals that will best work for ourselves. If we will practice that good attitude, then we may be able to preserve the sexual equality.

Sex in the society nowadays is obviously the basis on how people function in their human life. Aristotle reminded us that we must avoid having all kinds of false hope in ourselves. But, what is important is to make sure that we will be doing all things well. He wanted us to think about these cultural illness, and we must know how to recognize the things that we don’t want to get right away.

Critical thinking, good friendship, and self love (self love is a way of treating your best friend the way you love and treat yourselves) are the keys to achieve the desired good relationship.


(This topic was discussed in relation to my online note taking job, so I decided to share it because the topic itself is very interesting.)




The Karma Bus Ride

I was waiting for the Karma Bus and minutes later the bus arrived beeping. It was so crowded inside full of boisterous passengers. The bus has no proper destination and there’s no need for an explanation. They said it was a journey of condemnation with no guaranteed satisfaction.

I found myself completely bemused and I became anxious. I courteously asked the lady driver to pull over and by the way her name was December. So, it was very easy for me to remember because she was attractive and clever.

The place that I choose was full of fascination and an arsenal for my inspiration. The ride of condemnation was an eye-opener and I must be thankful to Miss December. I swear! you will always be in my heart forever.

I started to recreate my existence because I was floundering. The whole tribe thought my life is humiliating because they kept on comparing me to the others, but I moved on sending the message that the path I choose was not boring but very amusing.

I am an eagle escaping from the cage of sorrow, happily soaring high in the infinite sky. One day they will understand, when my body starts colder and when I will start to turn the blind eye. 

The Different Kinds of Soulmates And Their Real Purpose

Human life’s purpose is to return to unconditional love. Depending on the type of relationship, as we learn to love unconditionally,  we feel affection, friendship and romance. This is where the soulmate fits in, and our soul families are here to help us learn that unconditional love. Romance alone wont fulfill that mission, so our…

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